So as I wrote about “All My Friends” the other night, I started thinking about some of the different articles I left out regarding the song.
First, I’d be remiss if I didn’t point out the write-up in Pitchfork’s Top 100 Singles of the Year. Mark Pytlik notes how the track has “an opening line worthy of a great novel” and while it is a great introduction, it’s made great by the story that follows.
The strangest part about “All My Friends” is despite enthusiasm for it, I haven’t evangelized the song really at all. When I compare this to other things from the last couple years (you’ve probably heard me praise the Hold Steady or Ted Leo), I’ve barely mentioned “All My Friends.” Then, as I dug up some old articles to link to, I realized why. The true power of the song (and really, as far as I’m concerned, the power of music) is the emotional response that it triggers. While some songs/bands/albums create a sense of community, “All My Friends” reflects inward rather than outward.
In my previous post, I generalized the song as being about “getting old.” More specifically, it’s a song about growing up, moving on, and thinking about people from your past. In his blog Status Ain’t Hood for the Village Voice, Tom Breihan writes about how “All My Friends” will always remind him of a college friend who died suddenly this past spring. He begins the entry by saying “I probably shouldn’t even be using this space to talk about this, and I don’t want to make too big of a thing out of it” and proceeds to talk more about his friends getting together to grieve rather than the song. However, it makes sense that he’d open up such a personal part of himself in discussion of this song; James Murphy and company hit upon the rare piece of popular art that profoundly affects its audience.
In an article for Slate, Hua Hsu (author of a phenomenal article about the Brit-Pop era that will always remain in my bookmarks) concludes by sharing “the pleasant shock of recognizing my newly 30-year-old self within” the track, and like Hsu, I’m starting to appreciate what Murphy sings about. Last night, a bunch of my high school friends got together for our annual “Festivus” party. With all of us scattered up and down the Eastern seaboard, we’re rarely all together in the same place aside from this one night of the year. Even though I don’t see these people often enough, we fall right back into place (which usually involves crafting and telling filthy jokes that I won’t print on the internet). I find that these reunions come just when I need them; I just completed an extremely challenging and draining semester of full time graduate work and full time (first year, essentially) teaching, so I’m still a bit emotionally exhausted after working constantly for several months. Nights like these manage to restore the “charge” that helps me keep going. Last night, as Mike and I discussed our different “end of the year” mixes and we discussed Sound of Silver and the “where are your friends tonight” line played in my head over and over, I realized that my friends were exactly where I wanted (and, to be honest, needed) them to be.
So to James Murphy, thanks for creating one of the finest pieces of modern popular art in recent memory. More importantly, thanks for helping me “find myself” (like tons of others it seems) in your art.
And to my friends – those I saw last night, those I’ll see over the next week, and those I haven’t seen recently enough – thanks for being a source of inspiration, joy, and happiness. I can only hope that I will return the same to all of you.
(OK, sappy time is over – Happy Festivus!)